change, come faster

Hey guys (more like hello to the two people reading this), so I’ll be honest.. I haven’t really been doing the greatest.

I know my last post was all optimistic and sunny, and I mean don’t get me wrong- I still want the same things for myself. It’s just that I’m hopelessly confused. I’m confused, because really all I want is to walk down a path that I’m happy with. I’m confused with what I want to become when I grow up, I’m confused about how to be happy, I’m confused if the advice “do what makes you happy” is meant to taunt me, someone who has no idea what will make her happy.

Time for more honesty. I’ve been crying, more than I’d like to admit. I wish I could say that it’s okay to cry or i’ll get over it, don’t worry about me, but frankly when you consider the circumstances, it would be almost irresponsible for me to say those things. I’ve been crying just so much. I know this might be just a me thing, but I hate crying, because it just emphasizes the lack of closure and control involved in the situation. Of course, the occasionally crying is fine and sometimes healthy (and no, crying because you read TFIOS does not count for the type of crying I’m talking about.. you know what I mean). It’s just that crying yourself to sleep every night for three consecutive nights for the same exact reason is not healthy.  Being unable to tear yourself away from constant fear and doubt is unhealthy. Constantly asking yourself the same questions is not healthy. Randomly crying at various points of the day just thinking about the future- that cannot be healthy.

I seriously cannot even begin to explain the devastation that not knowing where I’ll be in a little over a year has caused. It all has, for some reason, dawned on me: I’m leaving high school, I have no fucking idea what I want to do when I grow up, and all I’ve been able to think for these past few days is “I’ve never been less happy”

I’ve never been less happy.

I need plans, I need structure. I want a map of my life in front of me and I want me from ten years later to reassure me, to tell me that all my worries are just a passing phase, and that yes, you will be happy with what you want to do. This all started with two sentences, actually. The first was when someone I really admire said “as long as you love what you’re doing, you will be alright” and the second, from the same person, was from right after that person dropped out of college where the person was reflecting and said “this is the most fun I’ve ever had”. Those words stuck with me, and in the middle of pathetic sobbing, I kept thinking that happiness is the endgame. (Also, side note, I’m keeping the person I admire very anonymous for now even though this person is very well known, cause I just want to, kay? :p ) I kept thinking, I want that. I want to make people smile the way this person has made countless people smile. I want to be able to say, without hesitation ‘this is the most fun I’ve ever had’. I’m sixteen. Depending on how you think, you either think I’m too young to fret over my future or far too late to the “help i don’t know what I want to do with my life” party.

I just feel like I need to know what to do with the rest of my life. I feel like I need to figure out what makes me happy and then immediately start hacking away at it so I can do what I love for the rest of my life. I’m very uncomfortable with not knowing what I want. And I guess you could say… it’s making me the least happy I’ve ever been, in a long time.

I know this is not forever, but I also know that any epiphanies that I come to right now will possibly affect the rest of my life.

so yeah. that happened.



  1. Lira · May 21

    I can’t offer advice because my life is always a mess, but I’m sending good vibes and I hope you feel better soon x

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    • queertasticblog · May 21

      thanks, Lira 🙂 I really appreciate it ❤ Hopefully this is just a 16 year old scared of growing up, I know I'll probably eventually figure out what I want from life! Sending love x

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      • Lira · May 21

        You’re so very welcome! Yeah, hopefully that’s it. Sometimes all you need is time to think and grow as a person. Hugs and stay well 💙

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  2. BoldSoul · June 24

    I went through uncertainty like this, and personally have learned that social conditioning plays a major role in how we interact with the world and how we think. I was like this until I just went traveling and embraced uncertainty. Now my life is fucking awesome because I ignored everyone’s advice and followed my intuition and seeked out mentors to learn from. I do not want to offer any advice, but someone ones told me, “show me your friends, and I will show you your future.” Im a guy so probably not much of help 😉 Crying is good because it tells you something is wrong. Most people just live a life of quiet desperation, and ignore their emotions or numb themselves.


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